Monday, November 28, 2005,11:44 PM
People change.
A lot of times we hear about people who don't show respect to their parents, or are ashamed to show them to the people because they are not highly educated, or they don't do a very good job, or they are a little "rural" in the lifestyle.

Another thing is people ignore or insult their friends, when they get a great job or something, or get into a superior university. I mean, people tend to change because of their superior state than their parents, relatives and friends.

When we hear such stories, we tell ourselves and people around us that look, how bad people are. We are not like that. We won't change ever. But that thought remains only till they get into a real situation. Then, they also behave the same.

I exactly know how the transition happens. In the beginning, when there is nothing superior in them, they'd be all good-good friendly-friendly. When they get a good job or admission in some good university (for instance), they start thinking about THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO NOT CHANGE. They try and talk normally to people. From the inside, they have an implicit confidence and humility due to their position, but this is actually not true. They are being humble just because they are trying really hard not to boast about their superior state. This also means that they don't even tell people that they got an admission somewhere, etc.

Ok, fine, lets take the example of admission in a good university now.

So, slowly, the news spreads. People come and ask them about it. Some of the selfless, really true friends go on telling more and more people, just because they are genuinely happy (and such friends are really really really hard to find). The jealous ones publicize the issue in trying to count the weak points in the person, and why he doesn't deserve to get that admission. Actually, indirectly, and unknowingly, they are adding to his fame (the best example could be Microsoft. The more the people curse that company, the more popular and widespread it gets). He comes to know about the extent of his fame. Some people whom he didn't ever seen in life come and congratulate him. Some people think about getting him as a son-in-law, and what not.

With all this fame and publicity and such great honour, he is overjoyed. This is the state where the transition from I WILL NOT CHANGE to I AM SO AND SO (so and so as in such a high profile person) occurs. True friends and false ones add to this cause too. True friends boast about his friend so much that he develops an unneeded pride. False ones boast about him so that they can get favors from him.

With all this illusion of the ACTUALLY-NOT-SO-BIG success, he becomes one of those, the ones mentioned at the beginning. I don't know if there is a solution to this problem. Its not his fault. Its all because he gets carried in the glorious success he achieved and others celebrated. It'd take a real pure person, who has a heart made of gems (not the chocolate :P) to not change in such a situation. I don't know any person like that.
posted by Anurag Singh Rana
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  • At 3:50 AM, Anonymous Sumeet

    Dont worry ... I wont change whn i grow :P
    and btw ur post say u r admitting that u r popularizing M$ =)) ... Start saying "Linux sux" It will contribute to ur cause :P

  • At 5:20 AM, Blogger suggu

    Is this a post a warning that you are gonna change...


  • At 6:07 AM, Blogger agastyabhrata

    Nice post fellow. I just wonder are you by any chance working on people's psychology?

    Feels nice to read them. Keep writing :)

  • At 4:00 AM, Blogger Sagar Rastogi

    Interesting.. and completely true.

  • At 1:35 AM, Blogger Paggi

    just trying to show the other side of the coin, this is how i see things in this regard

    Its true people do change when they taste success, I kindda feel its natural,i look it upon as, a major milestone crossed in ones life.
    it can be becoz u get a altogether elated feeling, "a high" u can say.. they love it and may be thats why they try to catch others attention, it all short lived and withers off with time.

    yes, i agree there are cases when people are all "High HEADED" and in a "superior state" , insulting others becoz of their new position, and its really something which pisses me off too.